I am currently happy with my family and small circle of friend and don’t have the desire to date right now or for a large peer group. However, some adults on the spectrum feel lonely and wish for more of a social life than what they currently have. In my case, I have sometimes wished for things simply because I felt I should.
For instance, the end of high school in 2004 when my brother went out with friends at graduation to a party, I wished for a graduation party. However, in reality I hate large crowds of people and noise.
Sometimes I am envious of my friends for being married or having children. I love working with children, but
at this point in my life I also still need a lot of downtime so if I have children it will be somewhat later in life as I find I am still maturing and learning as an adult. At 28, I can handle a lot more than I could at 18.
Yes, I sometimes wish I was better able to handle certain situations or that my life was more “normal” but most of the time that kind of thinking is a waste of time and takes away from the happy, unique life I do have.