Someday World

A few years ago, I was having a conversation with a friend. She remarked how much happier I seemed lately. I had gotten a new puppy over the summer and was eager to start a new school year. I remember her saying that there are some people who spend their lives saying “someday I’m going to be happy” and that it is better to enjoy the now rather than waiting for that “someday.”

Over the last few months, although excited, I have stressed myself out over the transition to grad school. (People with Asperger’s Syndrome have difficulty with change of routine). I kept telling myself that when a certain thing was accomplished (e.g. receive my letter of admission, got my disability services set up at U of A (in progress now)), I would be happy and relax. Today, I took a look at myself and realized I am living in that “someday world” again.

I, and other people with AS who are prone to anxiety, potentially need to change their focus to how they can make today the best day possible and what they can physically do to plan for the future. If it is something out of one’s control, I find the best techniques are thought stopping, exercise, meditation or prayer, or doing an alternate fun activity.

Hopefully, I can get out of “someday land” and live every moment while looking towards the future with joy.

Do any of my readers or their family members struggle with difficulty with transitions and/or anxiety. If so, how do they cope?